Why are you failing at online dating?

The dating app world is vast, with thousands of applications, platforms, and websites providing services for users to meet potential dates. With the array of features that each one offers, it is possible to find the right one for you. But for some, dating apps just have not worked out, despite all the energy and effort they have put into it. For some, it’s just bad luck, but for others, it is more a matter of their approach. They are just bad at online dating and that is okay, because today I am here to help you improve your dating app success rate. These are some steps to achieve the level of success you’re seeking and if you follow them, you can get the dates you’re looking for.

  1. Picking the right dating application:  The most important first step in this process is finding the right app that fits your intentions. Understanding what you’re looking for from dating at the moment is imperative, as different applications offer different experiences for their users. Based on these offerings, these applications will offer different features to complement their core purpose. Even though these platforms and apps are all classified as such, dating can have a different interpretation for users. Some see dating as a fun way to meet people, others find it as a way to hook up with someone with no strings attached, while some see dating as the first step in finding their soulmate. By understanding where you are in your life and what kind of dating you’re looking for, then you’ll be able to choose the best dating application that applies to you.
  2. Pictures: Now that you have picked the right application, you must show users who you are and starts with selecting pictures. Physical attraction is the first thing that most people notice, whether it is online dating or meeting someone in person. With your choice of pictures, you should choose photos that accentuate your best physical attributes. You want to show off your arms, eyes, beautiful hair, and any other appropriate physical features that you believe are attractive. You should also include pictures that convey your interests, to give potential matches a peek into who you are. If you like movies, show yourself at a movie premiere. If you like basketball, show yourself playing or at a game. If you love hiking, show yourself trekking up a trail. Either way, give people a look into your life from a visual perspective. It is also a good idea to show pictures with people you love, to show users you have a great support system. Whether it is your friends, family members, pets, etc., it gives your profile a personable touch. But as much as there are dos, there are also don’ts you should follow when choosing pictures. The cliche tiger pictures are a no-go, even with the popularity of Netflix’s documentary series Tiger King, these photos should be avoided at all costs. Selfies are pictures that should be eliminated from your profile as well, as they can come off looking weird and to some people, give the impression that you are self-absorbed. Lastly, if you do add pictures of yourself with friends and family, limit the number of pictures you post, as you don’t want viewers to be confused as to who they are looking for.
  3. Profile: With your best pictures chosen, you must complete your profile. Part of putting together a profile is to make sure it is compelling and intriguing that draws the attention of people swiping or coming to your page. Starting off with a short bio, you want potential matches to read interesting facts about yourself, showcase your humor, and/or get a glimpse of who you are if you are sarcastic, religious, extremely political, or whatever drives your personality. On top of your bio, most apps are now allowing users to answer prompted questions, which present different topics of interest or pointed questions to bring out more of who you are as a person. These questions are the perfect opportunity for you to share a little more about yourself.
  4. Communication: The first three steps are what get you in the door, whereas communication is what sustains everything. Being able to communicate your intentions and interests as well as have free-flowing conversations gets you to your dates. But how do you have these conversations? As you are introducing yourself to someone through a small text box, no matter how attractive you are to your match, the opening message is crucial. You must have a great icebreaker to open things up. The first message is a dealbreaker, the wrong message can totally turn off your match. You shouldn’t just say the typical “Hey, how are you?” That’s boring and doesn’t really open the conversation up for more depth. Ask a question based on their profile, which allows for the match to explain further and give you a chance to ask a follow-up question. After getting a response, sustaining the conversation is difficult, but if you continue to share facts about yourself, rely on your shared interests, and genuinely learn about your match, you can keep things flowing until you’re both ready to exchange numbers or go on your first date.

With these steps, you can become a dating app pro but it all begins with selecting the right platform. If you pick a platform that specializes in facilitating hook-up culture when you are looking for love, you will fail and the subsequent steps will be irrelevant. As long as you align your interests and intentions with what the application offers in terms of ethos and features, you are on the right track to succeeding.